Saturday, 30 April 2016

Ten reasons to not have a baby

So yesterday I wrote about why having a baby is a great idea, today is the other side: reasons you might not want to have a baby.

1. You can pop out to buy a pint of milk in less than 5 minutes. I can get out the house pretty quickly with the baby, it’s my 4 year old that takes forever to get appropriately attired. Even so I have to make sure I have the changing bag with all the right things in, I have to get the baby in the sling or buggy, and a last minute nappy change or crying for milk throws everything off. Even if you just need one thing from the shop down the road having a baby turns it into a mission.


Me and Mine April 2016

This is the 5th Month I have taken a photo of my family, but the first time for me joining in with the Me and Mine Project.

This month Little turned 3 months and M is 4 1/2. We have settled into our family of 4 and are getting a bit of a routine going. The weather has finally cheered up (apart from the snow, hail etc) and we have been exploring the garden at the new house.

The Me and Mine Project

Friday, 29 April 2016

Ten great reasons to have a baby

Heavily pregnant and trying to remember why you are doing this? Need ideas to convince your partner to have a baby? Or just wondering why you have subjected yourself to the lack of sleep after baby kept you awake half the night? Here are 10 great reasons everyone should want a baby...


Thursday, 28 April 2016

My baby at 3 months

I was getting Little dressed at the weighing clinic today and the lady next to me was getting her newborn dressed. The newborn was small, wrinkly, curled up and had that cute newborn cry. I looked at the 2 babies next to each other, Little is not so Little any more. At 3 months Little is increasingly interactive and interested in the world around her, she’s finding new ways to communicate and is getting big.
A newborn sleep suit next to a 3 year old baby
Newborn to now


Wednesday, 27 April 2016

My four year old's favourite word

M’s favourite word is "never". Her favourite phrase is "never ever". Not only does she like to shout these out when I ask her to do something, but sometimes she just randomly shouts "never" for no apparent reason.

M has a wide vocabulary and is frequently surprising me with some of the words she knows, "Wowsers" is one of my favourites. Despite her knowing a huge range of words "never" seems to be the one most frequently used.
While watching Jake And The Neverland Pirates this morning I noticed that Captain Hook said that very word: “Never!!!”. So despite consciously preferring Izzy and choosing her in role play, M's inner child is identifying with the ineffectual and naughty Hook. 

I'm trying to find positives about the character, but let's face it there isn't much to love. Disney have made him constantly fail and rather stupid because this makes him less scary. Obviously good always has to win in a children's TV programme, I get that, but the kids aren't meant to associate with the baddies are they? At least Hook loves his mummy.

Maybe I am reading too much into it? Maybe M doesn't really want to go around and steal treasure with a crew of odd men she can bully. Maybe "never" is just a much better word to shout to sum up her frustration with the world than the more normally used "no". It has the great benefits of an extra syllable allowing her to stretch the word out and increase in decimals.

Let's face it a 4 year old has no concept of just how long never is. I can tell her I will never ever stop loving her, but it feels slightly undermined when at the same time she is shouting that she will never put her shoes away.

We have a daily battle of wills. I am very stubborn, so is she. Who can hold out longest? M with her requests (and tantrum) demanding to watch TV or it will break her heart (where did she get that phrase from?) or me with my refusal to let her watch TV while she is being naughty. M is single minded in her demands, but easily distracted. I have other things to consider: mainly if I give in this time, she'll expect it next time and the noise level of the tantrum is disturbing the baby and the neighbours up to six streets away.

Apparently I never let M do what she wants to do, other than all the times that I do that she forgets about. It's much easier for her to remember all the times I say "no" or "not now". Maybe I should get a pirate captain's hat, a red coat and start saying "never!”?
Captain Kate!


Tuesday, 26 April 2016

My baby at 2 months old

A delayed update about Little written at 2 months.
2 month old baby in a grey party dress
Little at 2 months old

Monday, 25 April 2016

Peter Rabbit Trail at Langdon Nature Reserve Basildon Essex

Updated April 2018

Given a chance most children enjoy playing in the woods. Why wouldn't they enjoy an endless supply of mud? If that's not enough there are sticks, leaves to kick around, trees to climb and a wide variety of insects. If they are lucky they might also see some larger wildlife such as squirrels, rabbits or deer.

Sometimes though children need a little persuasion to get outside and explore. The Forestry Commission and Wildlife Trust have introduced a number of trails to help encourage the reluctant explorer including the Peter Rabbit trail at Langdon Nature Reserve in Basildon.

A toddler in a pink snow suit and penguin scarf and hat looking at a A4 map of the Peter Rabbit Trail