Life After Loss

AD Losing someone that you love is the most painful time in any person’s life - coming to terms with life after loss is a process that takes time. During this difficult time, it is crucial that you also take care of yourself. Looking after yourself may be the furthest thing from your mind, but practising self-care as best as you can is vital at a time like this.

The days and weeks following a loss can feel like a haze, so it is important not to put yourself under too much pressure, do your best and everything else should fall into place.

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Allow Yourself to Grieve

Experiencing a loss can lead people to put themselves under all kinds of pressure. In particular, you may believe that you should be feeling a certain way, and may feel guilty if that is not the case. In truth, there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Everyone grieves in their own way, as it is such a personal thing. Allow yourself to grieve in your own way, take things at your own pace, and resist the temptation to force yourself to feel differently. The grieving process will happen at its own natural pace, so try to be kind to yourself at this difficult time.

Practical Arrangements


For many people, the practical arrangements following a loved one’s death can be one of the hardest things to handle. Deciding on funeral arrangements, such as choosing between burials or cremations, can be difficult choices to make. Try not to take on too much on your own. Discussing options with other family members can make it simpler to arrive at a decision, and also puts you under less pressure.

Unfortunately, the loss of a loved one also involves going through their paperwork. Again, this may be something that you would like a trusted family member or friend to help you with, to ease some of the burden. Although the thought of reading through their paperwork may be daunting, this is a task that you can often feel relieved to have gotten out of the way once it is completed. 

Seek Support


With so much to handle, you may feel overwhelmed both by emotions and the thought of the practical tasks ahead. At this time, you should never feel afraid to ask people for help and support. Talking things through can be a massive help, as can getting someone to help you with the practical side of the arrangements. 

The grieving process can be complicated and confusing. Many people choose to seek professional support at this time by visiting a grief counsellor to support them through the process. Speaking to a professional counsellor can be a great comfort and provide a beneficial outlet for your feelings and thoughts while you are grieving. You should never be afraid to look for this kind of help, as it can offer so many benefits. The most important thing to remember is that you are not alone, and support is always available.

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