As she left the house wearing her new bag Little was excited to go to nursery, in fact she had been waiting at the front door for a while as her sister and I finished getting ready. It was a struggle to persuade her she had to take her bag off to get in the car seat, but she eventually conceded to holding it on her lap (before emptying out the contents during the car journey). Throughout the school drop off, the walk to nursery and the wait for the doors to open Little was happy, but as soon as they opened the door she ran the other direction. I eventually persuaded her to go in, but she clung to me and asked me not to go. The staff coaxed her over to the play dough and while she was distracted I disappeared out the door with a promise from the staff they would call if she got too upset.
She was fine, of course she was fine. The next nursery session she ran in and was happy to say goodbye to me. Little has been going to nursery a month now but only for 3 hours a week. In contrast her Big Sister started full time the day after she turned 1. When I left my eldest for her first day at nursery there were tears from both of us. I’m not sure whether mine were due to leaving her at nursery for 50 hours a week, the £1000 plus I would pay for the privilege or because I was heading back to work full time. If you are going back to work you might find this post on how to choose childcare helpful. Having experienced and visited a number of different nurseries I thought I would share my knowledge about what you need to buy to start nursery.
What Do You Need To Buy For Nursery?
Nurseries vary in what they provide and it's one of the things to ask when you go on an initial visit. Big Sister's private nursery provided everything she needed and we just had to put a change of clothes in a bag. Another nursery I looked at asked you to provide: bedding, nappies, wipes, calpol, suncream and possibly more. Whatever they do or don't provide there are always two absolute essentials you need: a bag and name labels.
A Fantastic Backpack
Both my girls have had Skip Hop Zoo bags when they started nursery. They love the bright, fun backpacks that are small enough for them to carry themselves. Big Sister had the Owl and Little chose the Dinosaur. The JoJo Maman Bebe we were in had some other great designs including the unicorn, fox and monkey, and we were surprised she chose the dinosaur, but that's children for you. The Skip Hop Zoo backpacks are the perfect size for a toddler, but there is enough space for everything they need to take to nursery each day. Like all the Zoo backpacks it has a small insulated front pocket and large main pocket, both of which zip up with a fun leaf. There is a side pocket you can put a drink into and adjustable padded straps. Little loves the backpack and I think she finds getting it out the cupboard the most exciting thing about nursery days, she even loves to show it off to anyone who comes round our house. The bag easily has enough space for a couple of changes of clothes, some nappies and wipes. We could even use it on a day out to take everything we need, but I’ll be sticking with my Babymule backpack for a little bit longer as it’s more comfortable for me to wear (and lets face it, whoever leaves the house carrying the bag, it will be me that ends up carrying it at some point).
Name Labels
If your nursery doesn't have a uniform I would strongly recommend putting your child in old clothes: they either get stained or go missing. I bought bundles of second hand clothes from eBay just for nursery. Painting, meal times, water play, toilet accidents and more can mean multiple changes of clothes during the day. The removed clothing might make it to their bag or peg so you can take them home and decide if they can be saved, but it’s not always the case. I was met by my eldest child on several occasions dressed in clothes I had never seen before because at nursery clothes without a name label are fair game. If you want to stand a chance of seeing an item of clothing again: label it.
I remember having to sew name labels on to my school clothes as a child and my Dad must have sewn on hundreds before I was able too. Fortunately there are now easier options including iron on and my personal favourite: stickers. You can get stickers which easily go on the label of clothes and don’t budge or fade no matter how many times you wash them. They aren’t all created equal though and I know of some parents reporting the names fading after just a few washes. Big Sister has boring black and white labels with her name on, but when My Name Tags offered us some for Little we went for a more fun and colourful design with a chameleon on. Their coloured name labels can have up to 3 lines of text (15 characters per line) giving you the option of first name, last name and telephone number or class, but I decided just to have her name.
The My Name Tag labels also stick onto hard surfaces so they are great for anything else you send in to nursery. They stick well to plastic and clothing labels, but the not the main clothing fabric, if you want labels on to the clothes themselves then their iron on labels are a better option where they offer a guarantee that they will stay on for 10 years! I’m not sure how often you will need a label to last that long. The stickers are suitable for washing, going in dishwashers, microwaves and sterilisers.
Some nurseries ask for children to bring in a drink, snacks or lunch. If your child has allergies you might want to send in your own food anyway to provide the reassurance that the food will be safe for them. Skip Hop do a cute range of lunchies and drinking bottles which are perfect for children.
My girls love the Zoo Straw Bottle. Flip the lid to reveal a flexible straw and handily there is a spare included too in case the first gets damaged. The 350ml bottle can be carried around using the small strap or it can be popped into the side pocket of the back pack. Handily it can also be washed on the top rack of a dishwasher.
Lunchies are a lunch box in a soft bag form (so no hitting their friends round the head with hard plastic). They have an insulated lining, mesh pocket and handle with a clip so you can easily attach it to the back pack. I love that with the Skip Hop Zoo range you can have everything coordinating or go for a whole zoo of animals. You can buy them from lots of shops and online including: John Lewis, JoJo Maman Bebe and Amazon.
Lunchies are a lunch box in a soft bag form (so no hitting their friends round the head with hard plastic). They have an insulated lining, mesh pocket and handle with a clip so you can easily attach it to the back pack. I love that with the Skip Hop Zoo range you can have everything coordinating or go for a whole zoo of animals. You can buy them from lots of shops and online including: John Lewis, JoJo Maman Bebe and Amazon.
Superpowers
Ok, you can't buy superpowers, but you will discover that when you leave your child at nursery time moves at a different speed. Suddenly your ability to get things done increases ten fold. Not only will you rediscover the luxury of going to the loo on your own (although my cat has taken to saying hello mid wee), but you can eat what you want without sharing, whizz around a shop in minutes and drink a cup of tea without the worry of it being knocked over. So far Little has attended 2 full 3 hour session and 2 shorter ones and I have been amazed by my productivity. A warning though, this power doesn’t last. As it becomes more normal and you start taking having time for granted the achievement level declines. And don’t even think about planning tasks that you absolutely must get done in that time because that is the most likely way for your child to wake up ill on nursery morning or for you to receive a call saying you need to pick them up early.
Preparing Children For Nursery
How you prepare your child for nursery will depend on their age. Settling in sessions help to ease them into it and nurseries offer varying numbers of different lengths sessions to help, don't be afraid to ask if you feel you or your child need more sessions. Little is 2 years old and I found that talking to her about where we were going and what was happening helped her to be more relaxed. The most important message for Little is that I'm going away, but I will be coming back. I say this and she nods and says "Mummy come back".
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***Disclosure: We were provided with the name labels, lunchie bag and water bottle for inclusion in this post. All thoughts and comments are my own. Amazon links are affiliate links, if you click on them and buy a qualifying product I will get a small commission at no extra cost to you.***
You may feel lost for the first few weeks- try not to worry about your little one and just make the most of your free time
ReplyDeleteJust take every day as it comes
ReplyDeleteYou'll probably be feeling just as anxious and emotional as they are, but try to stay cheery and confident - children pick up on your feelings of apprehension.
ReplyDeleteTo try to make it as positive an experience as possible so they don't get too stressed out.
ReplyDeleteFrom working in a nursery the best thing to do is just drop and leave. The parents that don’t leave make the child more anxious by staying
ReplyDeleteTry and get to know your child's carers I think it makes you much more comfortable if you have a good rapport with them
ReplyDeleteTo be positive and communicate well with both your child and the staff.
ReplyDeletePlay it by ear and go with the flow, if you make it stressful your child will pick up on it.
ReplyDeleteKirsty Fox
For leaving and picking up always talk to the staff as it always made my daughter comfortable and secured
ReplyDeletetry to make it a positive experience and make sure you have a good relationship with staff members
ReplyDeleteI think it's important to remember every child is different. Take each day as it comes and greet with lots of cuddles if that's what they want.
ReplyDeleteAlex Telford
We sent in a little cup for the staff to top up with water throughout the day for our little boy. The biggest one was mentioned about the old clothes, we're noticing our son is doing more messy play so always comes home in his change of clothes (or other children's!)
ReplyDeleteMake it as happy time, I still remember a bit about my nursery days with great fondness
ReplyDeleteI think it is important to try and get the child to talk about their time at Nursery even though sometimes they can't remember what they have done!
ReplyDeleteI remember it all feeling very daunting...and that was just me!! but it's amazing how quickly you all settle into it and it feels weird knowing what to do with yourselves during 'school/nursey' holidays. My advice would be to take a moment once in a while to appreciate it's a special time...as it really does pass so quickly. x
ReplyDeleteEase them in, lots of reassurance, big hugs but don't linger around for too long.
ReplyDeleteIt does get easier - leaving my son at nursery and then school was so hard but he's made some lovely friends and now loves going to school x
ReplyDeletesee if you can stay with them for a few little sessions until they are familiar with the staff and surroundings, a gradual ease in can sometimes help.
ReplyDeleteremember they will be kept busy and will enjoy themselves, even though it may not feel like if if they cry when you leave.
ReplyDeleteTake time out for yourself while they're asleep and make sure they're safe while you do xx
ReplyDeletehave something lined up for you to do to keep your mind off worrying - whether its meeting friends or housework. Also once you say your goodbyes - don't linger - just go as it can be really tough on children if parents delay their parting.
ReplyDeleteMake sure you reassure them your coming back
ReplyDeleteTry and prepare them for it. Leave with Nanny or a friend for an hour so they get used to being left and that you come back and pick them up
ReplyDeleteTry to make nursery sound exciting and the walk to nursery fun, so your child doesn't feel anxious.
ReplyDeleteThere may be tears to begin with but they soon settle down. I remember standing outside the nursery school front door and listening to my son crying and feeling awful, but after a few minutes he stopped and when i went to pick him up later he didn't want to leave!
ReplyDeleteNot really it's that long ago with my kids, I'm entering for grandson
ReplyDeleteMy son's school had a story about starting school which we read to him several times before he started at nursery there. It was tailor made and it prepared him for the routines, people and activities.
ReplyDeleteRemember that if they are crying when you leave, they will be fine after 5 minutes!!
ReplyDeletedo a little prep work before starting - walk to the nursery a few times to get them used to it and make sure you talk to them about it -all the fun activitis, all the children to play with
ReplyDeletemy nephew is starting nursery soon but we are not worried. i think he'll love it
ReplyDeleteyes, just take your time dont rush them x
ReplyDeleteLots of reassurance and let them know they will enjoy themselves.
ReplyDeleteExpect a few colds and germs coming home!
ReplyDeleteGive them lots of hugs & kisses. Reasure them how special & precious they are & they are big girl or boy.
ReplyDeleteHow to leave her there for the first time without crying ? :(
ReplyDeleteAlways wish them a good say and give them a big hug and kiss at the start and end if the school day
ReplyDeleteGet them excited, let them know all the exciting things they're going to do and don't put too much emphasis on the saying goodbye part x
ReplyDeleteBe really cheery and tell them how much you're looking forward to seeing them and hearing all about what they've been doing. Tell them about your day too, no matter how dull you think shopping and cleaning it is, they will find it interesting and it will encourage them to open up to you.
ReplyDeleteThe first day will either go one of two ways - they will either scream and cry and not want you to leave or they will walk in and not even give you a second glance, either way you will feel dreadful, don't beat yourself up x
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